Lead from your authentic self. Trying to be someone else will eventually break you down, blur your vision, and alienate followers. Fakes are eventually found out. Fortunately, there are as many types of leaders as there are people and personalities. Just be the best version of yourself that you can be. Others will respect you for it because it gives them permission to do the same. They’ll also love you for it because it allows them to get close to you. Authenticity has that effect. It creates a culture of intimacy, vulnerability, and ultimately, connectivity. The heart of leadership is connection, which always begins by being yourself.
“Becoming a leader is synonymous with becoming yourself. It is precisely that simple and it is also that difficult.”
- Warren Bennis, Scholar and pioneer in the field of leadership studies
Character is the cornerstone of leadership. Why? Because trust is the result of character. And people will only follow you to the extent that they trust you. This trust can take years to build and seconds to lose, which is why leaders are leaders everywhere—at work, at home, and within their social circles and faith communities. This doesn’t mean that you always need to be the face in front. It means that you are always attentive to your internal moral compass. Honesty, humility, bravery, and determination—these character traits must follow you everywhere. They are the wake you leave behind and the crest you create ahead—they are your destiny.
“Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.”
- Abraham Lincoln, 16th President of the United States
You will be criticized, scrutinized, attacked, mocked, and maybe even hated. You will be falsely accused, lied to, and most likely laughed at, by friend and foe alike. Leaders must learn to live with thick skin, but soft hearts. Ignore hecklers and haters. Value constructive criticism, but hold it loosely. Invest in an inner circle of trusted friends for support. Strive to serve as many of your constituents as possible, but without compromising your mission. You cannot and will not be able to please everyone. That’s okay. Pick your battles and focus forward, while letting go of negatively and living lightly.
“Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you’ll be criticized anyway.”
- Eleanor Roosevelt, Human rights activist and former First Lady of the United States
Ditch the hero worship. One person will not save your organization or singlehandedly bring a big vision to fruition. One person can be a spark, but successful organizations are sustained by a community of leaders in which everyone contributes to the collective flame. The “Superchicken Model” is outdated, inaccurate, and ineffective. Teamwork always trumps isolated top performers, and charisma is much less important than character and the ability to collaborate with teammates—learnable traits or skills. Leadership is not biological or oligarchical. Leadership is fundamentals. And fundamentals can be learned.
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”
- Winston Churchill, Former Prime Minister of the United Kingdom
Leadership is developed daily, not in a day. And each day presents a thousand opportunities to become a better leader. The world is waiting for the difference only you can make. Don’t wait for approval or a title. Don’t allow others to discourage you with quips of “you’re not qualified.” The only way to gain experience is by experiencing. So share your vision, build your team, and take action. Don’t take no for an answer—remember that rules are usually just recommendations, that problems are really opportunities, and that, in the game of life, the only losers are those who don’t play.
“If there is no struggle, there is no progress.”
- Frederick Douglass, Social reformer and abolitionist
So what’s holding you back from becoming a better leader? Fear. It’s always fear. Fear of giving without the promise of return. Fear of inexperience or inadequacy. Fear of sharing your vision or of what others will think if you aim for the unknown or extraordinary. Maybe even the fear of success—fear that if it all works, you’ll actually have something to lose. But love casts out fear. Let the desire to make a difference in your world transcend the fear that would otherwise hold you back. Feel the fear and act anyways. Take one step forward—just one. If you don’t, who will?
“All of the great leaders have had one characteristic in common: It was the willingness to confront unequivocally the major anxiety of their people in their time. This, and not much else, is the essence of leadership.”
- John Kenneth Galbraith, Canadian economist and diplomat
What is leadership? Leadership is trust-based influence—nothing more, nothing less. Leadership is not a title, position, or popularity contest. Leadership is not the loudest voice or the most words. Leadership is the ability to impact others simply because they trust you. Leadership is listening and lifting others up. Leadership is bringing out the best of everyone you meet, every time you meet. This is why we can all be leaders, because we can all positively influence those around us. Leadership is like tea, subtly and sweetly transforming the environment around it. Be the tea.
“Leadership is not about titles, positions, or flowcharts. It is about one life influencing another.”
- John C. Maxwell, American author and leadership guru
Leadership is about love—who you love, what you love, why you love, and how you love. Loving leadership manifests itself in many ways—from small acts of courage and kindness to inspiring speeches and defining decisions—but a common denominator remains the same: service to others. Leadership, by definition, is not about you. It’s about who you serve and how. Ditch the iron-fist, top-down leadership paradigm. True leaders are servant-leaders who live in a world of we, not me. They are selfless, self-sacrificial, and relentlessly attentive to ways they can add value to others—they lead with love.
“You are not here merely to make a living. You are here in order to enable the world to live more amply, with greater vision, with a finer spirit of hope and achievement. You are here to enrich the world, and you impoverish yourself if you forget the errand.”
- Woodrow Wilson, 28th President of the United States
This book is for anyone who wants to increase their positive impact in the world. Regardless of personality or position, you can be a leader. A leader is simply someone who wants to make a difference and decides to takes action. If that’s you, then keep reading.
What is leadership? Leadership is not grandiose—a loud voice or a showy list of accomplishments. Leadership is not an inherited trait—a pretty face or a specific chromosome. And leadership is not a right reserved for the few—those with wealth or status. To the contrary, leadership is mundane—a milieu of seemingly insignificant moments. Leadership is learned—over time and with practice. And leadership is the responsibility of the many—the more leaders the better. You possess the power of leadership, the power to impact others in a way that no one else can; therefore, you can and must become a better leader. Our world—your world—depends on it. Are you up to the challenge?
This book is also for those of you who are starving for simplicity. The superabundance of information in the 21st century can be appealing at first—but also suffocating. Therefore, the format of this book is simple: 50 tidbits of leadership wisdom, or WIZBITS, boiled down to 100 words or less. Just clear, concentrated insights about leadership and changemaking that aim to inform you, inspire you, and equip you.
So let’s get started—your world needs the positive impact only you can make.